Jaffa Bread

jaffa cake

As a mum I am going through a bit of a tricky time right now. Six years ago I was blessed with an adorable baby girl. We were spoilt; she has always been a placid, easy going child with a delightful nature. She still is. But lately she can also be defiant and rude, hurtful and argumentative. I love this girl to pieces. I learn from her constantly. I miss her when she isn’t around and genuinely enjoy her company. But I don’t know what to do right now. I suspect the best approach is to overdose her with love, but my behaviours do not always reflect this thought. It is breaking my heart just a little; it is making me doubt myself. I feel confused and unsure and at times hurt and frustrated.

I do believe it will pass, that it is just a stage. But I still feel that I need to manage it as best I can and right now I am not doing that. I don’t know how to do that.

I don’t doubt that it is all perfectly normal child behaviour; I think the problem is that what we are seeing is so very out of character for our little girl. We have never expected or seen this in her and I think it has taken us all by surprise.

She is still a lovely little person with a kind heart and a compassionate mind. She is still selfless and generous, but she seems to be in a difficult place. It is almost as though she is testing out her role in this world or perhaps finding her boundaries.

At the same time her little brother continues to be his gorgeous but demanding self. Is this the problem? Is it a delayed reaction to having a sibling who requires so much of her Mum and Dad, when she herself is, and always has been, very independent? Am I not finding enough time to play? Or is it an inevitable stage, an integral part of her development?

I am trying to keep it light, to not read too much into it. To, as I best I can, simply observe, love and let it pass. It isn’t easy. This mum gig may well be the best job ever, but it isn’t easy.

Jaffa Bread

2 cups almond meal

10 medjool dates, seeds removed

1/4 cup cacao or cocoa

1/2 teaspoon concentrated natural vanilla extract

pinch of salt

zest of two oranges (2 – 3 tablespoons)

4 eggs

1/4 cup macadamia oil

1 teaspoon bicarb soda

Preheat your oven 175 degrees Celsius or 350 degrees Fahrenheit.

Grease and line a loaf tin (mine is 19cm x 9cm) with baking paper.

Place the almond meal, dates, cacao or cocoa, vanilla, salt and zest into your blender or food process and blend until the mixture is crumbly and the dates finely chopped.

Add the eggs, gently pulse to combine.

Add the oil, gently pulse to combine.

Add the biacrb, gently pulse to combine.

Spoon the mixture into your prepared loaf tin and bake for 35 – 40 minutes, until an inserted skewer comes out cleanly. Allow to cool in the tin for five minutes before flipping onto a cooling rack. Enjoy!

  • k

    I will definitely be trying this. It sounds lovely. Think it will go down well with my 6 year old son too, your situation sounds extremely similar to mine currently too. Sending you strength to help you through this stage.

  • Chellebelle

    Sounds yummy! Also sounds like my Miss 6 almost 7 and yours were separated at birth 😉

  • Felicia Stretton

    Yum, yum and yum!

  • Barbara Martin

    I just wanted to say thank you for this delicious recipe. I can’t believe how moist the bread is and so fragrant. I love the combination of orange and chocolate and this one is definately worth trying. It’s a keeper for me!

    • Thank you so much! I appreciate the feedback. I am rapt that you have enjoyed it!

  • Carly

    Thanks for sharing, reading your comments about yourdaughter is exactly what’s happening with me. Motherhood is very tough.

    • It is tough at times, hang in there, as I have seen it does pass. Know that many of us go through it. xxx

  • Wendy Woo

    I don’t know when you wrote this post, and whether you are still upset about your little girl. I have only just come across your site, but it is blatantly obvious that you are a devoted, caring mother, and that you have built a loving, stable home for all your family. Children do change, and “try out” new ( often challenging) behaviours., and if they know that they are unconditionally loved at home ( not all kids are), this is the safest place for them to do it ( but not nice for you!) Do not beat yourself up, you are a fabulous mother and this stage will pass. Having said that, I would also check with school, to see if she is being bullied, or if anything has altered or been noticed there. Take care, and be kind to yourself.

    • Thank you so much!!!!! I really appreciate your kind words. It actually passed quite quickly and I have my amazing, delightful little girl back. xxx

  • Becs Addison

    My son has an egg allergy so we made this egg free by leaving 4 tsp of chia seeds in 1/2 C orange juice for 5 mins to gel. We used this orange gel mix instead of the eggs and it made a beautiful moist choc-orange cake. Probably more cake than bread but it was yummy and well received by everyone in the family.

    • Thank you so much!! I am sure many people will find that tip really helpful. I appreciate you sharing. Be sure to let me know how you go with any others that you try. Bianca. x

  • kelly

    could you substitute the almond meal with coconut flour and if so how much would you use

    • I haven’t tested it out but I would perhaps try 1/2 a cup ad see how it looks, you may want to add another 1/4 cup. Let me know how you go. Bianca

  • MPW

    I have just read about your daughter, I think it may be a stage of development and there will be many more (my daughter is 20 years old – it was a big journey) but I think doing what you are doing (loving, and nurturing her and of course boundaries) is so important as she will grow into a wonderful women

    • Thank you for your lovely message, I really appreciate you taking the time to write. Thankfully this didn’t last long although as you have said I do expect it to happen again and I will try my best to handle it exactly as you have advised, love love love. I hope it gets me through 🙂

  • Kristy Archibald

    This is my attempt… It’s very tasty – I’m trying not to eat it all at once! I used grapeseed oil instead of macadamia nut oil but otherwise followed the recipe, which was super simple. Thanks! 🙂

    • Thank you so much!! I love this pic. It loks divine. I am glad you have enjoyed it. x

  • Renee Wolf

    I would really like to make this for my daughter to take to day care for a snack. Can I substitute the almond flour for regular flour or rice flour or coconut flour as her centre is nut free?

    • Em

      Renee, I’m sure you could … if you wanted to keep it wheat~free, though, you *may* need more eggs, using coconut flour.

      • I agree with Em, certainly worth trying. Please let us know how you go.

  • Hi bianca

    I’m not sure if you are still in the midst of this but I thought I’d share this post I wrote on my 6 year old girl. We have been experiencing much the same … rest assured you are not alone and it’s very normal!


    Rachel xo

  • Em

    This is delicious! I shared it with many people & they all loved it! It didn’t last long!

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  • Diana

    Made it today, it turned out great. I had only 1.5 cups of almond meal so I added 0.5 cup of spelt flour and used 20 deglet dates. The taste is amazing!

    • Fabulous!!! Thank YOU. I really appreciate the feedback and I am glad you enjoyed it. Be sure to let me know how you go with anything else that you try. Have a great weekend. Bianca. x

  • Georgia

    I love the chocolate and orange combination, and this is the perfect way to enjoy it without any refined sugar etc. Unfortunately, I didn’t have enough medjool dates, but adding some rice malt syrup and regular dates worked out fine.

    I warm mine up and top it with almond butter, banana and blueberries. Best breakfast ever. Yuuuuuum.

    Thank you!

    • Oh that sounds divine Georgia!!! Thank YOU!!! I really appreciate the feedback and I am glad you liked the recipe. Be sure to let me know how you go with anything else that you try. x

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  • Soph

    Hi Bianca, I just want to say thank you so much for all of your recipes. You are amazing! They have changed mine and my sisters lives haha! We bake them all the time and just love everything on your site and we love you! We have made this countless times and it is one of our favourties.This is our favourite website and can’t thank you enough!! ❤❤❤❤

    • Oh Soph!!! Haven’t you brightened my day!!! Thank YOU so much!! I am rapt to hear that you like my little space! Be sure to keep me posted on how you are going with the recipes! Thanks again for your kind words and your support. Bianca. xxx

  • Terezka

    Oh yum yum yum.just finally made after a friend of mine made it 6 months ago.and gosh it is divine!great for me as I am trying to loose that baby fat after my number three baby born in September:)))love your website!

    • Thank you so much!! I am glad you enjoyed it! I hope you find many more recipes that you like. Be sure to let me know. x