Blend and Bake Coconut Mud Cake

Blend and Bake Coconut Mud Cake

Someone who is very dear to me is going through a torturous time. Her precious little girl, her first baby, was born at 30 weeks gestation.

The perfect, adorable girl is doing well but it is a frightening and heart wrenching time.

I can’t offer my friend much but her family are constantly in my thoughts and I check in as often as I can without being a nuisance.

To one of my letters my old friend replied ‘Is this how parenting is, feeling out of your depth and out of control?’

I didn’t know what to say.

I have never stood where she is standing.

I decided to let her words sit with me for a while.

I spent this time reflecting on when my first baby was born and I realised that I have always been the young one. All of my closest friends had walked the parenting road before me. I have never talked to a friend about what it will be like when their first baby comes along. My friends simply told me that I would be fine. In hindsight this is actually really valuable advice, because despite how hard it is you will be fine.

I thought about the second and third week of Elise’e life. The time in which she cried inconsolably and relentlessly.

During those days I didn’t want to hear about the overwhelming love Mother’s feel. I didn’t want to be told that becoming a parent was the best thing that would ever happen to me.

I wanted someone to understand that I felt completely out of my depth. That I felt terrified. That I felt full of doubt, uncertainty, fear and loneliness.

I felt helpless. I felt inadequate.

But most of all I just felt scared.

The weeks passed in a sleep deprived, tear filled blur. But somehow, at some point, Lu stopped crying. My Mum came to help us out. Everything got better. And better. And better.

I soon realised that there would be hard times, harder than anything I had known prior to my girl’s existence. But I would get through them.

I soon realised that there is no right and wrong. There is only my family and what works for us.

I soon realised that all things pass.

As the weeks went on my heart felt like it would explode. I was experiencing a level of love and a level of joy that I had never known. I wondered how I ever got by without her.

But that’s just my story and every one creates their own.

What I would say to my friend is that yes, being a parent does leave you feeling out of your depth and at times out of control. But you, my love, have been thrown where few of us have ever been. Where you are, I hope is the scariest place you will ever visit in your parenting journey. Your deep end is deep, your control is limited.

As the weeks move on your feet will start to touch the ground. You will have more and more influence in your baby’s days and finally you will take her home.

The worry won’t go but I hope it will ease.

This parenting game is full of uncertainties and a sense that you are muddling your way through. It can be lonely and it can test every aspect of who you are. But it can also fill you up like nothing else ever has. It can bring the brightest sunshine, the warmest touch. It can open your eyes to the little things.

To the precious, little, everyday things.

I am sorry that you have to be so strong right now. I am sorry that you cannot sleep at night with your baby by your side. I am sorry for the fear and for your little one’s struggles.

I hope that with each day that passes your precious girl is stronger and that with every breath she is closer to you taking her home.

I am sending you love because it is all I have and I know all of yours will be spent on her.


note – this recipe requires high powered blending. 

Coconut Mud Cake

  • 4 cups desiccated coconut
  • 1 1/2 cups coconut milk
  • 1/2 cup honey*
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • pinch of salt
  • 6 eggs
  • 2/3 cup coconut flour
  1. Preheat your oven to 175°C or 350°F. Grease and line a 20cm square or round cake tin.
  2. Place the desiccated coconut into your processor and blend at high speed until the coconut is turning to butter or a smooth thick paste. You will need a high power processor for this. If after a few minutes it doesn’t seem to be happening you can add a tablespoon or two of the coconut milk and see if that helps.
  3. Once the coconut is smooth add the remaining ingredients and blend to combine. Spoon the mixture into your prepared tin, it will be very thick. Use your hands to level the top.
  4. Bake the cake for 45 minutes or until an inserted skewer comes out cleanly. Remove the cake from the oven and cool in the tin for 20 minutes before transferring to a cooling rack. Cool completely prior to cutting.
  5. Slice. Serve. Eat and enjoy.

*you can sub the honey with rice malt syrup if you prefer

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  • nashina

    If someone does not have a powerful blender, could they replace the 4 cups of desiccated coconut with coconut butter if they can get it?

    • Belinda

      Yes, as you are essentially are making coconut butter, but I could not tell you how much 4 cups of dessicated coconut yields as a butter, sorry. Will try and make soon so I can tell you though 🙂

      • nashina

        Thank you so much, that would be much appreciated.

    • Jill

      Four cups of coconut makes one cup of coconut butter.

      • nashina

        Thank you so much, that is great to know.

    • Yes, 1 cup of coconut butter should also work. x

  • Fiona Durante

    I had my baby girl at 28.5 weeks gestation. I was so very lucky that i got to have a steroid injection prior to her arrival to help develop her lungs. Certainly not what you plan. But my little girl slept and grew, slept and grew and slept and grew. She was little for so long – it was a precious time. She is now a very healthy 12 year old. I wish your friend all the best and hope her baby sleeps and grows too and develops into the healthy beautiful young girl she is meant to be.

    • littleums

      Seconding this comment! For me it was my niece, so I don’t know how scary it must be for the parents, but my niece is a healthy, happy 8 year old after being born at 28 weeks and spending many months in intensive care. She is a bit smaller than the average kid, but healthy as can be. It’s a very tough time, but the medical system is so much better at dealing with this, and most babies born after 28 weeks survive and ultimately thrive.

    • That is such a lovely story to hear and I am sure it will bring comfort to my friend. Thank you so much for sharing. It must have been an incredibly difficult time. xx

  • Donna gallagher

    My Grandson was born at 25 weeks and 1day…..he was 810 grams…..he is nearly 20 months old now…..it was touch and go for many weeks, but tell your Friend that Michael’s Mother told him over and over and over to just relax and keep calm….that was his job…to just keep calm and relax, and if he did that, than everything would work itself out……. Michael is a very calm little boy, and despite several heart stopping moments, dire predictions and seemingly impossible hurdles, he is now well, healthy, and starting to catch up those milestones and rope them in. Michael’s Mummy got the prescription right….take in the information from the Drs and Nurses, put that information into a box and shelve it into a recess of your mind IF.you need to revisit it, then just get on with telling that precious Bub to just keep calm….that’s all she has to do, and everything will be ok. I’m not downplaying how hard it is going to be, but the important thing is to remind that Bub just to breathe in, and breathe out….keep calm and relax. Thoughts and prayers with this little one. Donna G.

    PS….I often think of that “1 day’…….it may have made the difference to Michael….but trust the neonatal staff….they are awesome Angels at work in our hospitals….the unsung Heroes of our communities…..so many little ones saved every week….. Emmily told me that during a very recent visit to hospital for a minor operation, the first Doctor she saw remembered Michael straight away and greeted him with a hug and a barrage of questions about how he was getting on….awesome people doing awesome things….hang on Bub

    • Thank YOU so much for sharing your story. I really appreciate it and I am sure my friend will too. It must have been a very frightening time for your family, I am glad little Michael is well, it sounds like he is surrounded by love. x

  • Belinda

    Bianca, I LOVE your site and making your recipes and I am wondering if you could please also include the weights for ingredients as I am using a thermomix and it would make it all that much simpler again if you possibly would consider.
    Many thanks, Belinda x

    • Hi Belinda, thank you. I am sorry I just seldom think to do this. I go into a bit of a zone when I am creating recipes, half the time I am lucky to even get them written down…..

      • Belinda

        Haha, grateful that you do get pen to paper and share with us as they are amazing !!

        • Thank YOU. I am glad you are enjoying the things I share. xx

    • Libby

      The best thing to do is make the recipe once, weighing the ingredients as they are put in to the Thermo and write them down. It’s what I do 🙂

  • New-to-baking

    Hello! I’m new to baking generally (as I’ve discovered my son is lactose intolerant and possibly gluten as well), so excuse my ignorance. When you say ‘turn the cake’ so you mean flip it out of the tin? Or do you mean change it’s position in the oven (ie move the front to the back). Thanks. New-to-baking-trying-to-be-a-good-mum.

    • Shebb

      Hey New-to-baking, I believe Bianca means to change its position in the oven as you described. 🙂

      • New-to-baking

        Thank you!

    • Change its position in the oven. I hope you enjoy it. x

  • New-to-baking

    …and is coconut flour easy to get hold of?

    • Katie English

      Yes – any health store will stock it.

    • Sure is. It is readily available in the health food section of the supermarket or from health food stores, co-ops, online etc

  • Katie English

    I was in the room when my grand daughter was born at just a little under 27 weeks gestation. Yes, it is a very scary time and, as a grand parent, I held my breath as I was so scared for my son and daughter-in-law. The team in the hospital (Auckland Hospital) were absolutely amazing and all the things we were told she would not do, she actually did. She was strong and determined. Yes, we had scary moments in the hospital and she survived through them all. She was seemingly soooo very tiny – 1.063kgs at birth – and now a very healthy and happy almost 8 year old. She is tall for her age, hardly ever sick and a bundle of happiness and joy. Your friend will find her way and relax into simply being a Mum eventually – it is so what we do not expect. I trust and hope that her little one will be fine and be home soon. (Normally on their predicted birth / due date). The doctors, pediatricians and nurses are wonderful so they are all in very good hands.

    • Thank YOU so much for sharing your story. I am sorry for all your family went through but pleased you have had such wonderful care and a perfect end result. Thanks again for taking the time to write.

  • Shannon Mary Smith

    YUM – thank you so much Bianca! I made this for the second time yesturday and added about 4-5 heaped desert spoons of Cacao and a touch more honey – Devine! Also i had ran out of cocnut flour from last time and used almond meal instead.

    • Perfect!!!! Thank YOU so much! I really appreciate the feedback, I am glad you are enjoying the recipe.

  • Clarissa

    I have a store bought coconut butter that I like to use and I don’t have a food processor. I wondering about amounts: Would I need four cups of coconut butter for this recipe? Thank you.

    • One cup should work well. I hope you enjoy it. x

  • Caity

    Hi Bianca, thanks so much for posting so many beautiful recipes! My 21st is coming up in a couple weeks and because there will be about 65/70 people coming, there are a mix of food allergies. I myself am dairy free, plus there are a few guests who are gluten or wheat free. Many of your cake recipes fit this criteria, but I was wondering if you had a recommendation as to what cake might be best? (I looked at the coconut mud, coffee pecan and carrot cakes). It only needs to feed 20 or so, as we will have other regular cakes too. Thanks so much!!! 😀

    • Hi Caity,

      All that you suggested would be great but I would recommend the 5 ingredient mud cake if this suits you. If you are using the 85% dark choc (which is dairy free) perhaps increase the sweetener by a tablespoon. All of the ones you mentioned are very popular so I think you will be fine with whichever one you choose. I hope you have a great party! Bianca

  • Jess

    Hey, just wondering if you have a fructose friendly alternative? Thanks 🙂

    • Hi Jess, if it is just the honey that is a problem you can sub it with rice malt syrup if that suits you?

      • Leah

        I used xylitol and it was just as good

  • Tanya

    Hi, this looks amazing! Do you think it would work ok in cupcakes? And how long would you cook them for?
    Thankyou 🙂

  • Jann

    Hi Bianca do you have any idea what the carb countof tthis cake would be? Thank you! Can’t wait to try it 🙂

  • Bex

    This recipe deserves 10 stars out of 5! Sensational!

    • Love it!!! Thank you Bex, I am glad you enjoyed it! I really appreciate the feedback. x

  • Christine Martin

    This was another hit, I made it for the kindy cake sale and not only was it sold for $20 but it was pretty much eaten then and there!! Thanks for making me look like such a great cook Bianca!

    • Oh that is great to hear!!!!! Thank YOU so much!! I really appreciate the feedback and I am glad the cake was enjoyed. x

  • Chantal Lenferna Dela Motte

    Tried this cake this weekend to test it for Lilly-Ann’s 7th birthday. It was so yummy and moist.

    • Thank YOU so much! I really appreciate the feedback. I am glad it was enjoyed. x

  • Danae Sinclair

    Beautiful. Any idea of how many carbs in a slice (I have gestational diabetes and looking for baby shower cake that I can actually eat)

    • I am sorry I am not able to help with that one. x

  • Kat J

    Hello – I made this cake yesterday but as per my usual form. I did not have honey so I replaced the 5 tablespoons of honey with 100g of Natvia. To compensate for the additional “dry” ingredient, I added a further 60ml (1/4c) of coconut milk. It probably was a little wetter than it was supposed to be but it still cooked for 1 hour at the prescribed temp. The final cake was more sponge like (crumbly) and truer to a coconut cake in texture however… it didn’t matter as it was still YUM! Thanks again (and one day I promise to make a recipe with a review with no amends) 🙂

  • Rachel Thrupp

    Has anybody tried subbing the honey for maple syrup? Does it work?

    • I think that will be fine. I hope you enjoy it. x

  • Joyce

    Hi Bianca, I noticed you topped the cake with a lovely frosting. Do you have a recipe or what would you recommend as a topping? It looks so beautiful, I can’t wait to try this cake! Thanks so much.

    • Thank YOU!! I toped the cake with full fat cream cheese blended with honey. If you want a dairy free version the icing on the no bake carrot cake works well. I hope this helps. I hope you enjoy the cake! B. x

  • jacque

    Is a nutri bullet high powered enough? I don’t want to start this to find it won’t work. Thanks

    • I haven’t used a nutri bullet but this recipe really does require high power. Have you ever made coconut butter in the nutri bullet? If so, it should be fine.

  • Carlie

    Yum, going to try this one today. Thanks for the inspiration! x

  • Ethan Gladman

    What have you used as icing? Mines in the oven now ????????????????

    • I used a mix of cream cheese and honey. If you would like a dairy free version the icing on the no bake carrot cake works well x

  • Aithne

    Not sure why this is filed as “vegan” when it has eggs and honey. I came across this recipe after clicking the vegan tag. Are all the vegan tagged recipes on here not actually vegan?

    • I am so sorry about that! I have now fixed it. If you see any others please let me know and I will fix them. Bianca

  • eva

    I’m loving your site and made the pumpkin bread the other day and it was delicious! I’d like to make this one, but have a question. Is desiccated coconut the same as coconut flour? I’ve never heard of desiccated coconut before so pardon my ignorance. I’m new to backing gluten free. Thank you!

    • Ginger

      shredded coconut

      • Alex Le Fevre

        Desiccated is the next level down of pulverisation – shredded coconut (for the purposes of this recipe) would take a bit more blending.

    • Hi Eva, thank you and no need to say sorry. Desiccated coconut is dried, unsweetened coconut. Does that help?

      • eva

        Yes, thank you!

  • Tiana Ivison

    Hi Bianca, I’d like to make this cake for my son’s 1st birthday and wondered if it’s dense enough to hold fondant icing on top?

    • Donna Carey

      It is quite dense so I would think so

  • Alanna Piotrowski

    Well I am sure this is delicious. Mine is baking currently. But I seem to have forgotten to include the eggs. Bahaha!

  • Maria

    Hi there, Can I make this cake in advance and freeze it ?

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  • Julia

    Hello. This looks delicious and I’m actually planning my children’s joint birthday cake. It’s a large square tin (40x40cm) and I was going to sit a seperate heart shape cake on top. My question is, do you know if these ingredients are ok to double and should I decrease the temp and increase the time? Or just increase the time? And is it dense enough to put a smaller cake ontop?
    Looking forward to your reply. 😁

  • Ginger

    Sticking this in the oven now. I was out of desiccated coconut, so I subbed in coconut butter. Will report back!

  • Ginger

    Success! I only wish I had some strawberries to serve on top.

  • Sam

    What a fab recipe! My son in dairy and soy free so this is perfect for us!
    Question – does this recipe work with normal plain flour rather than coconut flour?

  • Very powerful words Bianca, so valuable to acknowledge that your friend is in a position that not many others experience. I clicked on your link for the delicious looking cake and appreciated your words- as someone who’s been there in similar shoes to your friend. People don’t know what to say & it seems there’s no ‘right words’. Thanks for being willing to try & finding some compassionate and encouraging words 🙂

  • Rhonda

    Just wondering if you can freeze this cake

  • Kate Barden

    Just wondering if it is possible to make this cake egg free as well? I was thinking of using 1/4 unsweetened applesauce for each egg, but not sure whether this would make the mixture to moist. Any thoughts?