Jaffa Bread

jaffa cake

As a mum I am going through a bit of a tricky time right now. Six years ago I was blessed with an adorable baby girl. We were spoilt; she has always been a placid, easy going child with a delightful nature. She still is. But lately she can also be defiant and rude, hurtful and argumentative. I love this girl to pieces. I learn from her constantly. I miss her when she isn’t around and genuinely enjoy her company. But I don’t know what to do right now. I suspect the best approach is to overdose her with love, but my behaviours do not always reflect this thought. It is breaking my heart just a little; it is making me doubt myself. I feel confused and unsure and at times hurt and frustrated.

I do believe it will pass, that it is just a stage. But I still feel that I need to manage it as best I can and right now I am not doing that. I don’t know how to do that.

I don’t doubt that it is all perfectly normal child behaviour; I think the problem is that what we are seeing is so very out of character for our little girl. We have never expected or seen this in her and I think it has taken us all by surprise.

She is still a lovely little person with a kind heart and a compassionate mind. She is still selfless and generous, but she seems to be in a difficult place. It is almost as though she is testing out her role in this world or perhaps finding her boundaries.

At the same time her little brother continues to be his gorgeous but demanding self. Is this the problem? Is it a delayed reaction to having a sibling who requires so much of her Mum and Dad, when she herself is, and always has been, very independent? Am I not finding enough time to play? Or is it an inevitable stage, an integral part of her development?

I am trying to keep it light, to not read too much into it. To, as I best I can, simply observe, love and let it pass. It isn’t easy. This mum gig may well be the best job ever, but it isn’t easy.

Jaffa Bread

2 cups almond meal

10 medjool dates, seeds removed

1/4 cup cacao or cocoa

1/2 teaspoon concentrated natural vanilla extract

pinch of salt

zest of two oranges (2 – 3 tablespoons)

4 eggs

1/4 cup macadamia oil

1 teaspoon bicarb soda

Preheat your oven 175 degrees Celsius or 350 degrees Fahrenheit.

Grease and line a loaf tin (mine is 19cm x 9cm) with baking paper.

Place the almond meal, dates, cacao or cocoa, vanilla, salt and zest into your blender or food process and blend until the mixture is crumbly and the dates finely chopped.

Add the eggs, gently pulse to combine.

Add the oil, gently pulse to combine.

Add the biacrb, gently pulse to combine.

Spoon the mixture into your prepared loaf tin and bake for 35 – 40 minutes, until an inserted skewer comes out cleanly. Allow to cool in the tin for five minutes before flipping onto a cooling rack. Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

  • k

    I will definitely be trying this. It sounds lovely. Think it will go down well with my 6 year old son too, your situation sounds extremely similar to mine currently too. Sending you strength to help you through this stage.
    K

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      Thank you. I appreciate that. x

  • Chellebelle

    Sounds yummy! Also sounds like my Miss 6 almost 7 and yours were separated at birth ;)

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      Thank you. x

  • Felicia Stretton

    Yum, yum and yum!

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      Thank you. x

  • Barbara Martin

    I just wanted to say thank you for this delicious recipe. I can’t believe how moist the bread is and so fragrant. I love the combination of orange and chocolate and this one is definately worth trying. It’s a keeper for me!

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      Thank you so much! I appreciate the feedback. I am rapt that you have enjoyed it!

  • Carly

    Thanks for sharing, reading your comments about yourdaughter is exactly what’s happening with me. Motherhood is very tough.

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      It is tough at times, hang in there, as I have seen it does pass. Know that many of us go through it. xxx

  • Wendy Woo

    I don’t know when you wrote this post, and whether you are still upset about your little girl. I have only just come across your site, but it is blatantly obvious that you are a devoted, caring mother, and that you have built a loving, stable home for all your family. Children do change, and “try out” new ( often challenging) behaviours., and if they know that they are unconditionally loved at home ( not all kids are), this is the safest place for them to do it ( but not nice for you!) Do not beat yourself up, you are a fabulous mother and this stage will pass. Having said that, I would also check with school, to see if she is being bullied, or if anything has altered or been noticed there. Take care, and be kind to yourself.

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      Thank you so much!!!!! I really appreciate your kind words. It actually passed quite quickly and I have my amazing, delightful little girl back. xxx

  • Becs Addison

    My son has an egg allergy so we made this egg free by leaving 4 tsp of chia seeds in 1/2 C orange juice for 5 mins to gel. We used this orange gel mix instead of the eggs and it made a beautiful moist choc-orange cake. Probably more cake than bread but it was yummy and well received by everyone in the family.

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      Thank you so much!! I am sure many people will find that tip really helpful. I appreciate you sharing. Be sure to let me know how you go with any others that you try. Bianca. x

  • kelly

    could you substitute the almond meal with coconut flour and if so how much would you use

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      I haven’t tested it out but I would perhaps try 1/2 a cup ad see how it looks, you may want to add another 1/4 cup. Let me know how you go. Bianca

  • MPW

    I have just read about your daughter, I think it may be a stage of development and there will be many more (my daughter is 20 years old – it was a big journey) but I think doing what you are doing (loving, and nurturing her and of course boundaries) is so important as she will grow into a wonderful women

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      Thank you for your lovely message, I really appreciate you taking the time to write. Thankfully this didn’t last long although as you have said I do expect it to happen again and I will try my best to handle it exactly as you have advised, love love love. I hope it gets me through :)

  • Kristy Archibald

    This is my attempt… It’s very tasty – I’m trying not to eat it all at once! I used grapeseed oil instead of macadamia nut oil but otherwise followed the recipe, which was super simple. Thanks! :)

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      Thank you so much!! I love this pic. It loks divine. I am glad you have enjoyed it. x

  • Renee Wolf

    I would really like to make this for my daughter to take to day care for a snack. Can I substitute the almond flour for regular flour or rice flour or coconut flour as her centre is nut free?

    • Em

      Renee, I’m sure you could … if you wanted to keep it wheat~free, though, you *may* need more eggs, using coconut flour.

      • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

        I agree with Em, certainly worth trying. Please let us know how you go.

  • http://teawithlucy.blogspot.com.au Rachel @ teawithlucy

    Hi bianca

    I’m not sure if you are still in the midst of this but I thought I’d share this post I wrote on my 6 year old girl. We have been experiencing much the same … rest assured you are not alone and it’s very normal!

    http://teawithlucy.blogspot.com.au/2014/05/the-six-year-old-transformation.html

    Rachel xo

  • Em

    This is delicious! I shared it with many people & they all loved it! It didn’t last long!

    • https://wholefoodsimply.com/ Bianca Slade

      Fabulous!!! Thank you. xxx

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